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Houston Divorce 101: Resolving Problems with your Ex

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So, you’ve finally finished all the proceedings in Houston divorce or Southside Place divorce. Congratulations. You’re finally free from all the heartache. Remember, this is for the best. Unless of course you wanted to spend the rest of your life feeling miserable with your now ex-spouse.

Now that you’re finally living your life without feeling angry or sad all the time due to unresolved issues, your Houston divorce lawyer suddenly calls you for some document that you would need from your ex. The problem is, you’re not ready to face your past. You think you are, but you’re not and you’ll only realize it as soon as you see your former partner. What are you going to do?

Prepare, of course. Divorce is a very difficult thing to go through, particularly if both parties aren’t for amicable settlement. That part of your life is over but that doesn’t mean that you would never see your ex again. You would eventually need to most especially if you have kids. Here are some tips to help you resolve your problems or concerns with your ex-spouse in the most peaceful and efficient manner.

Know your Faults and Accept It

One of the most common reasons why your ex is still mad at you is due to unresolved problems that you haven’t yet accepted. Be aware of the things that you have done, own it, accept it, and don’t do it again. You really don’t need to tell your ex-spouse that you’ve come to terms with your faults however, this will make things easier for you to face him without regret, anger, or bitterness.

Always Listen

Being divorced doesn’t automatically mean that you don’t have to civil with your ex. What if you have kids? Make sure you take the time to listen carefully on what he has to say. Even if you don’t believe him, it is common courtesy to let the person speak. This shows respect and would greatly reduce the risk of shouting at each other, thus leading to an amicable meeting.

Stick to the Topic

To avoid the awkwardness of not being together anymore, make everything quick by focusing on the reason why you guys needed to meet in the first place. This will prevent any conversations that might lead to anger, pain, or sadness. If you need to talk about the children, then talk about them and nothing else.

Stop the Snide Remarks

You’re angry and that’s normal. But don’t show it because it wouldn’t do any good at all. Stop being sarcastic and just concentrate on the things that you need to talk about. Your main goal is to ensure that you’ve got what you needed and that you’ve gotten it quick, without throwing things at each other.

These things are quite challenging but you need to be strong no matter what happens. Become the bigger person even if your ex is being emotional or irrational. It is all about being matured about the whole thing and moving on. Good luck.


Michael Busby Jr. is a Divorce, Family Law, & Houston Divorce Lawyer,  who practices in Harris County Texas and the counties that surround Harris County, Texas. He has been in practice for over 14 years and has tried over 300 cases.  He is familiar with the policy and procedures of the Harris County Texas Divorce Courts.   Our office is open until 8:30 p.m. on Wednesdays and Saturday from 9 a.m. to 1 p.m. for working folks.

Michael Busby Jr.

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Houston, Texas 77057

(713) 974-1151

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